How to Embrace Endings
Endings can be scary things, whether it is the end of a job or a relationship. You might have only been dating for a handful of months or working at the same job for ten years, but the fear of something coming to an end can make you feel terrified. We are all creatures of habit, so when there is a sudden change, we tend to panic – acting and feeling different than usual.
So how can we control how we react and embrace endings? Read on to learn more about how endings can jar us, as well as my top tips on how to feel more comfortable letting go of the past and moving on.
Ending a Job
When we leave a job, it can be scary as sometimes we don’t know when or if we will get a new position, and in some cases, you may worry about entering a new work environment, meeting new colleagues and be nervous that your new position wouldn’t be as enjoyable as your old one was. Careers are very important to all of us. They demand our time and attention for a large part of the day, and the wages pay for our accommodation, food and so much more. They are a necessity for most. So when one job ends, we immediately focus on when we will find another – and worry that maybe you should have stayed where you were. Because of this, we can be fearful of finding new opportunities or leaving a position that we no longer enjoy. This can hold us back in life, as sometimes we have to take some risks to help advance our careers or find a job that we love rather than despise.
Sometimes, we become too comfortable in the environment we work in and with the people who surround us. So, when it is time to end things and move on, you fear having to start fresh somewhere else. This can impact your new job as you could be reluctant to work with others or feel uncomfortable and take too long settling into the new place.
Ending a Relationship
Romantic relationships are something else that dominates our lives and holds a considerable significance over our happiness and mental health. When we are in love, we can feel like we are with a person who will never leave us, and that the love you share will never fade or turn bad. Unfortunately, sometimes we are blinded by this, and sometimes the feelings do leave, and the relationship has to come to an end. But, the fear of being alone or of letting go of someone even when the romantic feelings have gone, can cause us to avoid ending a relationship. This can be detrimental to your mental health, leading to problems like depression, anxiety and even abandonment issues. You need to start embracing change and understanding that the end of a relationship isn’t the end of everything so that you can move on effectively.
Embrace New Chapters of Your Life
Whether your job or relationship has come to an end, you need to overcome your fears and embrace the new chapter of your life that awaits you. While the ‘end’ might seem very definite, it creates space for something new to start, which you should be excited for rather than fearful.
Rather than focusing on the past, look towards the future and consider all of the new experiences you have ahead of you now. If you catch yourself growing worried about letting go of a past job or relationship, remind yourself to embrace this next step and see it as positive progress for a brighter future rather than a failure or mistake.
Prepare yourself for the uncertain future of the single life or a new career by boosting your confidence and mental health. With a more positive outlook on the next chapters of your life, you will find it easier to embrace endings and look towards the future. Therapy can help you understand your thoughts and feelings and why you are so opposed to endings, helping you to feel more welcoming to new challenges. If you feel like you lack the confidence you need to be on your own after ending a relationship, therapy can offer advice and support to make you embrace this new period of your life with a smile.
We shouldn’t fear ending things, after all, as they say, when one door closes another door opens. If you think counselling can help you overcome your fear of endings, then don’t hesitate to contact me today for more information on my services.