How Teacher’s Cruelty Impacts Us as Adults
Being in education isn’t the most enjoyable time for everyone. Not every student loved their time in the classroom, and some even loathed every second they spent in the building. This could be due to a multitude of reasons, but in some cases, it can be due to teachers acting cruelty or insensitively in the past or in the present. By emotionally abusing or neglecting to consider a child’s feelings while their minds are still developing, they are brought up with insecurities or find that they are replicating this behaviour and treating others with the same negligence and degradation as they received.
Read on to learn more about the impact teacher cruelty can have on us as adults. Understanding why we behave a certain way can help us to separate ourselves from the negativity and become the best version of ourselves. However, it’s always important to remember that the isolation, hurt and anger we feel isn’t the fault of ourselves, but rather the few teachers who abused the punishment system, showed little compassion or caused students to feel humiliated.
Isolation is a word many people might remember from when they were in Primary and Secondary education. Often it was a system where a teacher removed you from the classroom and placed you in a separate room where you were boxed off from other segregated students and forced to work in complete silence all day long, perhaps for the rest of the week. They say it’s for your own good as it will teach you to behave, but for many, it just feels like hell.
On some occasions, teachers abuse the isolation system and send students there without giving warning or chances because they can’t, or don’t want to, handle them effectively. You may have felt singled out of the whole classroom and publicly labelled as a misfit, before removing you completely. How can this not impact your later life? The psychological impact this has on the child follows them through to adult life, where they are often facing symptoms of anxiety because of the isolation and separation from others they suffered as a child. Repeatedly being told that you are too stupid to follow the rules or being kept away from positive social interaction can lead to more behavioural problems rather than improving and resolving them.
Children often learn from what is being presented to them, so if a teacher shows isolation and degradation as the way to behave, then students may take this into their adult life. If your teacher, someone meant to help shape you into an intelligent and caring adult, degrades other students in front of you, or even yourself, it can lead to you thinking it’s acceptable and repeating the behaviour in the future. Being degraded in front of your fellow peers and other teachers can leave deep physiological trauma on your mind. It defeats your self-confidence and can even lead to anxiety or depression related symptoms at a young age.
As you enter adult life, the emotional trauma can follow you, making you relive the initial events over and over again. Many adults can’t handle this and find themselves with a great deal of insecurities and self-doubt. Constantly reliving the moments that you were told you weren’t good enough can cause intense physiological issues. Basing your actions off the emotional abuse you faced, you can even make others feel how you felt unintentionally, creating a whole new cycle of abuse and trauma.
Some teachers can subject their students to rejection, either intentionally or unintentionally. By telling them that they will not achieve their dreams, not offering them the support they need to thrive academically or by making them feel useless and inferior can lead to deep-rooted issues for the student. A teacher’s job is to cultivate intelligence and confidence, but by ignoring a student, these few teachers can instead leave emotional trauma. Many studies show the impact of isolation and rejection on a child right up to adulthood. It begins with the teacher diminishing your self-worth in the classroom, separating you from others, and gradually other people around you may start to treat you differently too. It can cause tension between you and your friends who may not want to be associated with a “troublemaker”. It can also cause issues in your family if they have been contacted by the teacher and are unhappy with the way you have been behaving at school. They see the teacher as authoritative and therefore justified in their actions. If they say their child is not working hard or is causing trouble, often most parents will believe them.
Soon enough, all this rejection and subsequent isolation will lead to more dangerous mental issues. You may start to feel that you will always face rejection from others as you are not good enough. Due to this you may not seek social interactions with others as much as you should, and you could even start rejecting those who do want to be with you. Having a support circle is essential and keeping yourself isolated from others will only leave you in the same situation as a child – feeling unhappy and alone.
If you feel like you are facing any of the feelings mentioned or faced teacher cruelty as a child, feel free to contact me today. As an experienced therapist, I can help you understand your emotions and work towards making a positive change. Don’t let the mistakes of another impact you forever, work with me to overcome your feelings of rejection, isolation and degradation and start making a change now.